by Dave Thornsen, PsyD | published Oct 4, 2018 | Communication, Couples, Trauma
As a Clinical Psychologist I am deeply committed to the idea that talking things through can help us heal. This healing effect is not limited to therapy. Most of us have experienced the positive, connected, feeling we get from a deep, intimate conversation. It’s easy...
by Dave Thornsen, PsyD | published Dec 29, 2017 | Couples, Sexuality
It is common for couples to come into counseling admitting that they have let the intimate side of their relationship wane. The truth is that when couples lose intimacy it is almost never intentional. It isn’t always disappointments and hurt that get in the way....
by Kelsey Nimmo | published Oct 31, 2017 | Better Sex Series, Couples, Sexuality
Part of the Better Sex Series In the movies, there’s no asking. Two individuals lock eyes, draw closer, and gracefully remove their clothes. It seems effortless – like it’s scripted or something. While this may be a beautiful goal, the problem is that we aren’t always...
by Kelsey Nimmo | published Oct 24, 2017 | Better Sex Series, Couples, Sexuality
Part of the Better Sex Series Throughout all of my work with couples, I continue to be surprised at two things. No one seems to know how to talk about sex. And as if that weren’t bad enough, no one seems to know what good sex is. Once I started noticing these two...
by Kelsey Nimmo | published Oct 17, 2017 | Better Sex Series, Couples, Sexuality
Part of the Better Sex Series So you’ve started thinking about what turns you on and what turns you off. You’ve even learned the breaking news that anything can be foreplay. And now you’re thinking: Wow, I really wish my partner knew this stuff. It certainly helps to...
by Kelsey Nimmo | published Oct 10, 2017 | Better Sex Series, Couples, Sexuality
Part of the Better Sex Series It’s not rocket science and it doesn’t need to be a secret. Maybe the problem is that your partner doesn’t seem to want sex as much as they used to. Or perhaps you never really feel in the mood but you have sex anyway because your partner...
by Kelsey Nimmo | published Jul 5, 2017 | Better Sex Series, Couples, Sexuality
Part of the Better Sex Series In the last article of the Better Sex Series, you started to understand what turns you off. Remember that thanks-but-no-thanks system? Understanding how your brake systems work for your sex drive can feel discouraging but keep your head...
by Kelsey Nimmo | published Jun 30, 2017 | Better Sex Series, Couples, Sexuality
Part of the Better Sex Series Have you ever thought about your sex drive like it is a car? Emily Nagoski, author of Come As You Are, creatively explains what happens to us when we (or our partner) aren’t feeling so sexy. How many times have you or your partner been in...
by Kelsey Nimmo | published Jun 16, 2017 | Better Sex Series, Communication, Couples, Sexuality
Part of the Better Sex Series We read article after article. We talk to our friends, our coworkers, our therapist. We download apps and purchase games. We shop for outfits. We want to know how to be more attractive, more appealing, more sexy. We want our partner to...
