Articles about Children

A Core Issue in Adoption: Identity

A Core Issue in Adoption: Identity

November is National Adoption Awareness Month (NAAM). But for adoptees, it’s become National Adoptee Awareness Month. The name change by adoptees is part of their efforts to have a voice in discussions about adoption, rather than having parents and adoption agencies...
To All the Moms

To All the Moms

Sometimes we think that a big part of what happens in therapy involves criticizing the mother of the patient. Actually as a profession, therapists probably have a greater sense of the importance of mothers than almost any other group. D.W. Winnicott helped us...
“Rules of Engagement” in Parenting

“Rules of Engagement” in Parenting

On December 31, 2000, my 12-year-old yelled, “you and dad are soooo ill prepared to raise kids in the new millennium”. She was right; although she did not appreciate our laughter at the topic. These “Rules of Engagement” work as well today as they did twenty years...
A Holiday Tradition for Dads

A Holiday Tradition for Dads

Twenty years ago, or so, when I was in graduate school, I thought it would be a great idea to take my two young sons Christmas shopping for their mom. They were probably 5 and 3. I loaded the Graco Duo stroller into the car and we headed for the mall. I had managed to...